You want your child to do well at school, but you're tired of arguing

If you're not constantly on their back, not much happens. No matter how often you explain to them why school matters, it doesn't really change their motivation.

You're slowly starting to wonder whether there's any point in saying anything at all, since nothing changes anyway. And you've had enough of the endless discussions.

As soon as you bring up school, the conversation gets tense again, and they shut down and get defensive.

They feel that you don't trust them, and that's why you constantly check up on them. Overall, they are frustrated at having no control over the situation.

You feel that if you didn't ask, nothing would happen at all. And with the current grades, you don't see much room for error if something goes wrong.

Of course you want them to take school seriously. But you've also had enough of arguing about it every evening.

Why the discussion starts from scratch every evening

As long as it hasn't been agreed what “working enough for school” means, it leads to discussions every evening. Often precisely when everyone is tired and would rather be doing something else.

That's why it is important to communicate your expectations clearly, and to look together with your child at how you can hand them more responsibility.

Studies show: when children can voice their opinion and have a say in such situations, this goes with more motivation and independence.¹

How you can work out a shared working rhythm

One important point is to agree together when “school work times” are, and how school fits around other commitments.

Is homework done before or after training or the hobby? Does your child prefer to work in one long block, or spread across the afternoon?

Weekend mornings or afternoons?

These discussions help you set a plan your child can orient themselves by.

At the same time, you can clearly point to this plan if discussions do come up.

Ideally, you can then stay out of it more and more, and your child works largely independently.

On the next page we explain how your child can work independently with LuxEdu. So that they feel actively involved in their own learning path.

At the same time, you keep an eye on their progress, and can react if things ever start heading in the wrong direction.